The Truth
When one keeps feelings inside, it’s not dissimilar from building a dam in the middle of the ocean. Feelings are not designed to be held back, just like the waves. Waves like to play, move, explore, join and explode upon reaching solid land moaning the sound of the ocean.
Being naked with another beautiful body is beautiful and sexy but having one’s naked mind out with someone else is a great deal more powerful. Deep inside you want to open up, you want to remember what the feeling of safety feels like, of opening every old room, memory, secret thoughts, desires, fantasies and fears and sharing them in order to purge the things that need to be purged, and expand the things that need to be amplified.
People think that it takes time to open up. I know that is not correct. Opening up can be done entirely from the beginning of any relationship. Opening up is the only logical thing that makes sense. Approaching a person with caution communicates distrust, fear and establish a relationship based on defensiveness, as one is always ready to run away. Sharing some things, but keeping others.
The days were I hold back anything inside me are gone. It’s nice to share. It’s nice to love, to embrace, to express deep desire. But to find peace, and turn off your mind, to surrender, you must allow for the intensity of truth to speak without running scared from it. Lust is a good example. The manifested energy of attraction, that magnetic animal pull to touch, happens at a time of its choosing. Lust is an energy that is not designed to be held back and controlled. Lust likes to roam free, like a lion. Lust is meant to be consumed when it is felt. People, have been instructed to hide their lust, as if it was something that is shameful. I don’t. I express it, I let it come out. Whatever I desire I will say.
The price to pay for expressing yourself without filters is at first loneliness. Being so direct, thinking unconventionally, and acting out of sync with the established patterns of relationship building and communications will repel a lot of connections. Hiding parts of oneself in order to fit the mask that people are expecting of each other is how most connections are traditionally made. When you meet someone new you roll out different aspects of your private side gradually, always checking every step to make sure it’s not too much for the other person.
Honesty can be labeled as ‘too forward and too fast’. That doesn’t mean that one should change strategy, on the contrary. The more raw the truth that comes out of one’s mouth, the more it will act as a repellent for the people that shouldn’t be around you, and an attractant for people that should get close to you—words, true words become like pheromones.
Nothing is sexier than knowing that everything you think about and share is safe. Home is where you can be yourself without any filters, shades, or secret compartments. Truth is the bridge through with love travels. Truth is where the ships of love dock for safety.
